Being residents of Bangalore I have known Dr Baburajan for quite
some time now. But it is only recently that we discussed about his life's
journey spanning eight decades. I found it very fascinating that a person
equipped himself with necessary qualification and changed careers working as a
teacher in a school, an agricultural scientist, college lecturer and finally a
medical doctor specializing in gynecology. He worked in England as a
doctor for seven years but returned to India, Here is a senior citizen who has
seen some huge ups and downs in life... It was a unique experience for me
Rajeev Moothedath (RM) to interview Dr Babu Rajan (BR).
RM: Could you tell us a little about your family background and
early life?
BR: My father, K.K.Raman was a Tazhildar and First class Magistrate
in Kerala Government service. My mother was a teacher in State Government School.
This meant frequent transfers for both our parents and disruptions in the
education of us children, three brothers and two sisters. We lived with mother
wherever she was posted and father used to visit us in the holidays or
weekends.
RM: In such a situation, you would have got less time to spend
with your father. What kind of a person was he as a civil servant?
BR: I remember him as a person who was fearless in doing his duty
irrespective of the circumstances. . When he was posted to Kodungalloor (one of
the rare periods when we lived together as mother was also posted here at that
time) in the fifties he was to implement the ban by the Government of Cochin on
animal and bird sacrifices, that had been going on since ancient times at the
Bhagavathy (Bhadrakali) temple. People came even from far of places, in
Tamilnadu and Andhra to offer sacrifices and were disappointed to know that it
would not be permitted.
Father stuck to his guns in enforcing the order unmindful of
agitations. Frustrated devotees came before our house and killed the animals
and birds leaving behind blood and bones. However, all this did not deter him
from performing his duty.
RM: Would you say that your father was not a religious
person? After all, in those days there could have been fear of the Goddess
herself being displeased.
BR: Well, in a way you are right. He was more of a person
oriented to rational thinking and was mostly busy with his work. It was mother
who was religious and visited temples. Although later in life he developed an
interest in horoscope reading as a science, he had not got the horoscopes of us
children written at birth nor had he matched horoscopes when he got married.
RM: After schooling how did you plan your further education?
BR: I took science and math for my intermediate (as Plus two was called then) after schooling. Between us three brothers, my younger brother
and I were good in studies. As he secured a few more marks than I did, mother said
“Let him study for medicine. You become a teacher like me." As I knew the
family could not afford to send all of us for professional courses, I agreed
and enrolled for B.A. Botany (interestingly those days B.A. was awarded for a
science degree)
RM: So, how did you become a doctor?
BR: Well. I guess it was all destiny at play. Soon after my graduation,
I got a job as a teacher in a school with a modest salary. A few months
later, the agricultural Department advertised agricultural scientist posts,
which was a gazette officer position. At that time, there was no course in
Kerala for agricultural graduation and therefore the position was offered to
Botany graduates. I applied, got the job, and worked there for two years. In
the meanwhile, agriculture courses were started in Kerala and the first batch
of graduates came out.
RM: Did this development affect you?
BR: Yes, in a big way! The government issued a notification
stating that henceforth the post of agricultural scientists shall be filled up
only by agricultural graduates and that those having a Botany degree would be
eligible for their next promotion only if they acquired MSc in Botany. As my future
was adversely affected, I had no choice but to do post-graduation. I applied
for the MSc (Botany) courses to various universities. I got admission to a new
university, (Sagar University) started in the state of Madhya Pradesh.
This was a blessing in disguise. Sagar University, even as we
wrote the final exams, offered all students appointment as lecturers at a
handsome salary (salary offered was higher than that of a first class civil
servant in Kerala) subject to the condition that they pass the exams with
a class.
RM: Did you accept the job?
BR: After writing exams, I went back to Kerala during the holidays
and enquired about job opportunities. There were jobs available as lecturers
but the salary was very low. Therefore, I decided to go back to MP and work for
the Sagar University.
Around two years into my job in MP, a student came to me in tears
and said that he has missed the opportunity to do medicine as he was short of a
few marks. I told him that some universities have a quota for students pursuing
MBBS from other states. I immediately wrote to two of my friends in Kerala.
Both of them responded and send one application form each, for entrance to
Calicut medical college. I gave one form to the student and the other one was
lying on my table for a long time.
RM: So, how did you end up doing medicine?
BR: I was just coming to that. One day as I looked at the
application form on my table, a thought came to me. The situation at home had
changed quite a bit since the time I started working. I was sending a part of
my salary home as a support to father. Now all my siblings had completed their education
and were settled. Perhaps, I thought to myself, it is the appropriate time to
dream bigger and forward that application. I send it across, not sure that
I would be selected for the course. Soon after though, I got a letter from the
college asking me to join bringing the original certificates.
RM: You did not have to look back after that?
BR: I returned to Kerala in high spirits. However, when I
met father he said that since both he and mother had retired in the meanwhile,
he would not be in a position to support my further studies which also
involved mess bill and stay in a hostel in Calicut.
I had almost given up the
idea when a thought came to me to meet and take the opinion of my brother in
law (sister’s husband) who was the HOD of the Trivandrum medical college .When
I met my brother in law, he said that opportunities like these should never be
allowed to be lost. He offered to bear the living expenses at Calicut and said “let
you father contribute only the college fees.". Thus, I joined the Calicut
medical college and completed medicine.
RM: As you were on a journey of continuous education, it would
have meant a late marriage?
BR: Yes, I was in my early thirties when I got married. Although
an arranged marriage, there was initially resistance from the sisters of my
bride Prabha, as there was a good age difference between us.
RM: After completing the medical course, you moved to the UK for employment.
How did that opportunity come by?
BR: Those days, UK representatives used to be on the
committee that finalized the medical education syllabus in India. Therefore,
the Indian MBBS degree was recognized in UK and other countries that accepted
the UK degree. We just had to apply to be considered for employment, leading to
higher studies.(I did MRCOG).
It is only in the seventies around the time of the emergency
that the Indira Gandhi Government decided to do away with UK
representatives on the committee. Consequently, Indian MBBS was no longer automatically
valid in that country. However, you still can serve in UK as a doctor after
passing their qualifying exams. They hold these exams in the northern and
southern parts of India every year so that those interested can apply.
RM: Normally, those who have moved to the west are
reluctant to come back to India, but you returned after seven years -
Why?
BR: My children a son and a daughter were growing up. I did not
want them to continue in that culture. I felt it was better to relocate while
they were in school itself so that they could smoothly assimilate with the
Indian culture.
RM: Looking back, do you think you made the right move? Were you
able to meet the objectives of your decision?
BR: Well, I had initial teething troubles setting up a
practice from the scratch. After all, I had left behind a comfortable life with
the Government of UK, paying a regular monthly salary. In due course Ashwini
nursing home that I started in Kammana Halli Bangalore began to do well. My son
Vidya was a very bright child and he took part in school Quizzes including
national level competitions on television. He later gained admission to the
prestigious IISC, Bangalore.
My daughter Agatha went on to do her medicine from the Mysore
medical college. She also found her life partner Raju Reddy, while studying in
the college. Although, initially both Raju's parents and we had objected to the
union in view of the cultural differences, we relented realizing that they were
serious about their intent. Today they are happily married with two children
and are settled in the UK.
RM: It must have been a big shock for you and your wife to lose
your young son in a road accident at the age of 22. How did you cope with this
catastrophe?
BR: Words cannot express our pain. Any death is painful, but to
lose your only son at a young age when you are still alive is very difficult to
come to terms with. I was devastated to such an extent that I became a recluse.
I preferred to stay alone in a room, hardly spoke even to my wife and barely
ate any food. This went on for around three months. It was then that I had this
experience- Can’t say for certain whether it was a dream, a vision, or a
reality.
Nevertheless, one day, a two-way switch in the corridor near my
bedroom (which can be switched on from inside or outside the house) lighted up
as if on its own. It certainly was not switched on from the inside. I then
heard my son’s voice “Dad, I am fine. There is nothing to worry about. You
should not continue like this. You have to take care of sister and mother. I
assure you, I will come back. I will come back again as your grandson.”
It was a strange experience. However, from that day, I began to
slowly come out from the grief and depression. I never mentioned the incident
to anyone else. Years later when my daughter gave birth to a son in the UK, she
telephoned to tell me that she had named the child “Vidyasagar”. I was taken
aback. I had not made any such request to her but on her own; she had named the
child “Vidya”
I believe this was an
interesting coincidence seen in the light of my ‘dream’ experience. Even to
this day, I communicate with my son, Vidya in a form like a mental telepathy.
You could call it prayer. I have requested that I may be given a ‘painless
death’. I feel reassured that this request will be met.
RM: It is said that in the initial days of grief, you were touched
by the gesture of a pastor who had come to your house on his own on learning of
the tragedy and prayed for the soul of Vidya, So much so, you even considered
converting to Christianity?
BR: Those were difficult days. Yes, I did think about it, but
my wife Prabha was adamant that she would not change her religion at any
cost.
RM: Is there any change
in your belief system based on life experiences over the years?
BR: I told you
earlier that I did not have any belief in horoscopes. I also told you
that my father in later life, developed an interest in astrology purely as a
science. Vidya was born around that time. Father wrote down his horoscope
but was evasive in giving details. He said the boy would study well and make a
mark. When I pressed, "what else?” he said in a roundabout manner that he
may not live long. We forgot all about it until years later the tragedy struck.
Today, based on my personal experience, I cannot discount the significance of
such readings or influence of a higher power in our lives.
RM: Presently, you
lead a retired life moving forth between India and UK where your daughter
lives. Looking back, Could you share some professional experiences that you
are proud about?
BR: well they are quite
a few. However, I will share just one for the record. A woman had come to us at
Ashwini nursing home, complaining of acute stomach pain. I did an elaborate, tricky
three-hour surgery to extract a mass of flesh from inside weighing as much as seven
Kilograms. It is not often that one comes across such cases.
RM: It is rarely that a
person goes through so many varying, diverse bitter- sweet experiences in a
single life span. Thank you Dr Baburajan for taking the time to share
your life experiences. Thanks a lot!
BR: Thank you Rajeev. It
was a pleasure talking to you.