Ms Mahalakshmi of Finance and her fiancé Karthick (who had worked earlier in the company in GA department) had come down to invite me for their wedding on 5th March 2012. They pointed out that 4th March, the reception date was a Sunday, and so convenient to attend.
I was pondering over this. It is a fact that normally a function on a Sunday is an advantage. But this particular weekend, I would be out of station. How could I convey my regards & warm greetings to the young couple even when not being physically present? Suddenly an idea came to my mind. What if I went back to my notes & shared the lines of wisdom imparted by Mr Sugi Sivam, noted speaker in Tamilnadu, during the “Newly married Couples” program organized by our ER department.
So through my notes, I journey back to the 18th of February 2010- This is what he said then:
1) Do not give room for a third person to enter into your married life- not even your mother, brother or sister
2) Accept certain things which form the core or basic nature of your partner. Don’t try to change him or her in this aspect. As for example your partner is very religious & you don’t like this.
3) Retain the closeness & attraction that you feel for each other till the end
4) Problems arise because of the many expectations you have from the partner. Instead practice acceptance
5) Never compare your spouse with anyone else. Can you compare a Rose with a Lily? Each flower is unique & beautiful in its own way
6) His advice to husbands: when you come home tired from office, wife tells about a lot of problems, just listen to it silently
7) The moments of love is the only thing that remains at the end of life
8) You can’t love anybody if you keep looking for limitations /faults in the other
9) When you go out with your wife, give undivided attention to her and don’t focus on friends or other people
10) Avoid being self centered; keep the wellbeing of spouse always in mind.
It is my belief that these are pearls of wisdom from a distinguished personality who has been guiding many people over the years. I wished the young couple all the best. I had put it up in knowledge management site of our company intranet so that many more could benefit. Now, I am publishing it in my blog with the prayer that my readers enjoy harmonious happiness in their lives.