Proof of the pudding
is in the eating...
so no point telling the other person
"how can you not like my pudding?
I have put the best possible ingredients
of first rate quality
so you jolly well like it!"
The fact is he doesn't like it- period!
The same goes for abuses
“I didn't mean it- in our village/ elite circles
this type of language is common
and not held offensive
so don't be offended
in fact, you have no right
to be offended!
If you are feeding someone
your tastes are immaterial, so…
If he doesn’t care for your alluring desert
doesn’t deserve it, preferring the ordinary rice gruelso be it!